Book by Orna Gadish, Author of "DON'T SAY I DO! Why Women Should Stay Single" (New Horizon Press, 2012) Exposes the Financial, Psychological, Sexual and Career-Related Logic Behind the "Single Woman" Trend

By Sharon Adams

Unrelenting and fully independent, the single women of today have more advantages than ever before, creating liberating milestones in female empowerment and an overall globally contagious, higher sense of self-worth. No longer are women insisting upon joining the circle of housewives. No longer are they the sole caregivers, nannies, or sex providers at home, but rather, today's women creating their own financial, sexual, and career-conquering, sovereign circles of like-minded women, who climb the success ladder day by day.

In the inspiring and stimulating new book, Don’t Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single, written by female empowerment author Orna Gadish M.Sc., Gadish uncovers dramatic alternatives to the old ‘white picket fence’ theories and highlights the importance for today’s women to fully determine if traditional practices are really meant for them. Must women really be reliant upon another person to find lifelong happiness, or can they find a better sense of accomplishment and esteem in themselves only?

Given the facts, nearly fifty percent of women today are remaining single and opting for “no thanks, I DON’T!” rather than taking the life-altering walk down the aisle. And considering divorce rates are also following the fifty percent of the pie number, it’s no wonder, millions of women today begin to challenge the relevancy marriage could have on their lives.

Gadish discusses “substitutes for marriage” for unmarried women, both in and out of relationships, as well as for single women, divorced women, unhappily married women, and happily unmarried woman. The book addresses alternatives for traditional marriage, stressing postmodern family structures and family settings where women's careers and passions in life are foremost—making the book a provocative and inspiring non-fiction for any female who considers dating men, sexual bonds, relationships, cohabitation, creating family, motherhood, education, career  development, marriage, or divorce.

Gadish goes on to further offer a distinction between old-age and new-age practices, modernizes ways for improvement in personal finances, and also addresses the verity that even science has given women the power of conception, without the necessity of a single touch of a man.  

Don’t Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single brings new values to life, serving as a platform for women to take a stand and truly uncover their true desires they hold within. Ultimately, the existential anxiety over preserving old traditional habits of family, relationships, and finances can be unleashed, as the book offers the single women fresh perspectives and alternative ideas to possess. Challenging, meaningful and captivating, Don’t Say I Do! reveals how marriage is just one choice for today's women, not the ultimate choice, given the high divorce rates and infidelity rates throughout the western world.

Don’t Say I Do! leaves no stone unturned, as Gadish addresses relevant studies, powerful theories, and thought-provoking challenges, relating to sexual, psychological,  financial and career-related advantages of living happily unmarried. As these new values become social cultural phenomena, unmarried women, single women, divorced women, and unhappily married women may benefit from embracing this revolution in female liberation. Above all, today's women are blessed with freedom of choice to carve their own paths in life, with or without a relationship, and without the marital restraints.

For many, the book can serve as confirmation of all of the questioning thoughts and aspirations women may once have had and can give a fresh breath of air into any woman seeking a higher sense of self-worth, contentment and also success. Don’t Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single is definitely an uplifting and compelling experience in the written word of relationships and modern lifestyle choices for millions of women today.

DON’T SAY I DO!
Why Women Should Stay Single
By Orna Gadish, MSc
New Horizon Press
July 2012
Self-Help/Relationships
ISBN: 978-0-88282-382-9
$14.95

A New Book "Don't Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single" Exposes the Reasons Behind the Decline of Marriage

By A.B. Gordon

Let's admit it. Marriage no longer works in today's society. When you look at the recent data, it appears that in the US alone around 47 percent of marriages fail, and in the rest of the world, statistics are nearly similar. That means that more and more marriages today end in divorce. According to a recent poll it was suggested that over 90% of women of this generation are "scared to engage in marriage, because they fear it might end up in expensive divorce." Although "marriage counseling" still exists, and the wedding industry does market marriage to women as if it was the "epitome of success" for a woman, let's not be naïve. Marriage is a dying institution.

According to Orna Gadish, M.Sc., author of Don't Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single  there are various reasons for this occurrence discussed in great detail in her book that challenges marriage as the first choice for women who are looking to "settle down." Gadish clearly illustrates a unique way to approach life without committing to matrimony, which was more of the choice of past generations. The writer accents that today's women do not need marriage in order to "settle down" in the old-fashioned way.

She goes on to explain that women who are well-versed in modern lifestyles, and have their own careers, they don't need men to support them financially and psychologically, since those women work,  study, and are way more independent individuals than in the past. Therefore, according to Gadish, if in the past, a woman needed marriage to "cover" her financially and also psychologically (since women were portrayed and treated as "the weaker sex")—this is no longer the case for a modern woman.

In part, Gadish ascribes the decline of marriage to the "sexual revolution," and today's women's own physical and psychological perception of their body and control of it. One of the contentions of the book is that today's women have more sexual liberties and freedom to "do with their bodies whatever they like." Ever since women released themselves from the "shackles of sexual control," which was the case for patriarchal marriage in the past—women have gained their sexual decision-making powers, "physical authority," and above all, freedom of choice to select their own sexual paths, relationship partners, friends, and also fathers for their children.

Here, the writer's point is that, also in relationships and family matters, women do not need marriage to secure such goals. That said, according to Gadish, today's women do not need marriage to start having sex with a man. She rightly points out that in the past, a woman could have intercourse only after committing to marriage (otherwise, a woman was scorned). Also in the past, it was only marriage that allowed women to create a family and bear children.
But needless to say that today the situation is totally different. "Our lifestyles have loosened became hectic and more diverse," Gadish writes. Today's women can have sexual mates, relationship partners, both long and short terms, all without marriage. Today's women can create families without tying the knot. And above all, women can have babies without marriage (in some cases even without a relationship or a touch with a man...) which is certainly a revolution in women's sexual liberation and decision-making powers.

Bottom line, according to the outstanding book Don't Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single, marriage is no longer necessary for women today in order to achieve all the benefits and freedoms that women could secure in the past only through marriage! Indeed, this is truly a remarkable liberation for a modern woman, no matter if she is single or not. The basic concept that a woman can do it all, without marriage (which is "a man-made institution," according to the writer) is significant to every woman!

Another interesting point raised by Don't Say I Do! is about cohabitation of unmarried women and single women. According to Gadish, cohabitation is on the rise today, with millions of women opting for this option rather than for marriage itself. If in the past a woman could live together with a man only after marriage, today, if a woman does not test their "living togetherness" through cohabitation first, the relationship might later fail. Which adds up to Gadish's points for alternative dwelling, relationship, and family options, and also strengthens her case against marriage.

To sum up, I totally agree with Don't Say I Do! that marriage might not be the best choice  for a modern woman who wants to "make it in life." The alternatives discussed in Don't Say I Do! are truly great substitutes for marriage. The book really cuts through all the stories society tells us about how "wonderful" marriage is, and sheds light on the new events, options and opportunities for women in light of all the modern social transformations. Thumbs up to Don't Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single. A great read on every scale. You can find this powerful book on Amazon and in your local stores.  

Don't Say I Do! Why Women Should Stay Single

Trend of Past Generations: Simone De Beauvoir’s The Second Sex

By Amy Pearls

Just finished reading a truly remarkable book by the legendary author Simone De Beauvoir. This seminal work called The Second Sex is truly remarkable, pivotal, and revolutionary for her time.

Published first in 1949, De Beauvoir’s key concept in The Second Sex is that throughout history men have oppressed women, treating them as second best, or "the Other," as opposed to men, who were always first class.

While men occupied the major roles in society, culture, family, and occupation, during that time, women were degraded to the level of "objects,""the other," all while men were positioning themselves quite successfully as"subjects,"key role players and leaders of society, culture, science, education, and business.

But look how far we went, since those times of harsh discrimination for women. No longer are women second class; women are powerful decision makers today in politics, society and culture. Today's women are no longer subjugated to men, but rather men's equals.  Women today take leadership roles in many organizations and businesses. According to a study conducted, the fields of marketing and advertizing, publicity and PR agency brim with women. Many PR agencies are led by successful women, who have long abandoned their traditional roles.

 But looking at history is wonderful for appreciation, because one who forgets history, will never learn from it.